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Monday, 16 June 2014

FACTS, RECAP AND COMMENTARY


FACTS, RECAP AND COMMENTARY

     Everyone always wants to know exactly what women do in prison as far as sex.
When I used to be at cookouts, or even at work, that is the question that people beat
around the bush with.
    "Um, has anyone ever tried to jump your bones?"  Someone asked.
   What the heck is that?  Just ask the question!
    Family members are a little more direct. 
   "Did Martha really have a dyke named Big Bertha slapping her?" 
   The answer to that is absolutely not.  She did have a young black girl from D.C.
that was not intimidated or afraid to step to Martha.
   "Hey Martha, can I pick you up for lunch?" The girl asked.
 This was a boy-girl, and she was thugged out! 
   "Of course.  I would love to have lunch with you?"  Martha replied.
   Yep-this young thug pushed up on Martha Stewart, and not only got a date, but
also picked her up from her job daily to walk to lunch and eat with her.  We were all
shocked. Even more surprising, Martha seemed to enjoy the attention and the company.
When we would see them walking, Martha would be laughing hard.
   "Martha, what is up with your new friend.  She comes to pick you up faithfully.  You
are not turning gay, are you?"  I teased.
   "Of course not.  She is a nice girl, and she is funny.  She keeps me laughing and I
enjoy her company."  She answered. 
   Martha was not anybody's duck or bitch.  She was a boss to the core. 
   So what do women do in prison?
   First, I am going to have to break this thing down.  It is four levels of women that
co-exist in prison.
   Level one is the curious women, and the closet women who have never been in a
gay relationship, but have turnout potential.
  Level two is the turnout.  A turnout is a girl that is gay for the stay, and did not come
into the prison gay, but inside the walls entered into an intimate relationship with
another woman. 
  Level three is the wannabe gay women, or pretenders and commissary pimps.
This category is also where all the bi-sexual women from home fit in.  They
were not gay at home, and will push ten women out of the way to get to a real man. 
A lot of them have more babies than all of us.  Many women come in and see the
market for money, and then cut their hair and change their walk, etc.
These women get on my nerves.  Fakes!  When you see their pictures from the streets,
I never recognize them.
   "Which one is you?"  I ask all the time.
    The woman is standing in front of me, baldheaded, sagging pants, and a young man's
demeanor, but on the picture she has on full makeup, a wig, and six inch high heels.
Many of them are also strippers.  Commissary pimps either give head for commissary,
or just collect commissary and promise the girls that they will get faded later.
Most of them are clueless on what to do with a female. 
    My grandkids read my blog, so I will keep this clean.  However, my rule was if you
attempted to partake of my private parts, you could not have had a man in 10 years
before coming to prison.  Also, you had to be gay from the streets.  I was not playing
around with a bunch of amateurs.  Having sexually relations is a 205 shot.  A shot is
an incident report.  You are going to the SHU.  You are going to be embarrassed.  All
staff and inmates are going to know what you were doing and who you were doing it
with, and some staff will even call your family and let them know what you were
caught doing.  Some staff are messy too.
    So, it was NO way I was going to play games with an amateur.  All that drama, and
not get faded?  Absolutely not! 
   Level four was my type in prison.  Gay from the streets. Had lots of swagger.  Wore
men clothing, and had lots of experience with women. 
   I made a mistake of taking a few of them home, and that was a bad decision.
My advice to all prison closet queens and pillow princesses is WHAT IS DONE IN
PRISON, STAYS IN PRISON, for real.  Women that think they are men are the best picks
in prison, but on the streets they have some serious psychological problems. 
    Of course women know this when they meet them.   When men or women dress
cross-gender, you know that it may be some other issues, and women are no different.
    On to the actual relationships.
    Turnouts are like the song by the Whispers, "Olivia the slave, gave distracted all
the way, to grandmother's house- Lost and turned out!"
      It is confusing for many people.  What makes a woman that is totally against
homosexuality change their minds in the middle of a prison bid?
     The answer rests in the change of cultures.  It is to be noted, as I said earlier
prison has its own culture.  Some aspects of prison culture mirrors the streets, and
others does not.   Inside these prison walls, you learn to work with what you have.
It is the same principle as if you were stranded on an island. 
    Maybe when you first get to the island, you are accustomed to bathing, and using
toilet paper about going to the bathroom.  Eventually, you adjust to the island culture.
There is no toilet paper, so you use leaves.  There is no bed, so you sleep on the sand.
There is no towels to bath with, so you use your hands.  There is no beef, so you eat
what is available, and your diet drastically changes.  Prison is the same way. 
   Most people do adapt and some even adjust.  After a few weeks, your resolve begins
to adjust to your environment in many instances.  Some women do not venture into
gay relationships, and remain firm in their faith in the outside world. 
    As time goes on, what looked like the unthinkable in the beginning of your bid,
becomes conceivable for many.  Hormones also play a big part in why a woman opens
Pandora's's box and allows another to turn her out.  Just because a woman is in prison,
does not mean she looses her hormones.  I commend the women that I know that remain
"strictly dickly", and stand their ground.
      Once a turn out adapts, it is a total loss of control in many instances.  Oral sex,
or any kind of sex has a spiritual component.  Many women have a large percentage of
sensitive fibers in their private area.  Oral sex between two adults is intense, and it
is total concentration on that sensitive area.  Like crack, these sort of things are not
to be toyed with.  If the person knows what they are doing, then the receiver is in
trouble.  Life no longer makes sense.  The focus becomes gaining the feeling again
and again.  Many times, all reason goes bye bye, out the window.  With a turnout,
because it is new, many have a hard time adjusting their minds back to normal, so
they just go with the flow, and the flow is all that matters.  Women began to loose
weight, because food doesn't really matter.  Who needs food, when you have partaken
of the forbidden fruit, and living it?  Weight loss is one of the symptoms of a turn out.
   You think about the things that the strange girl has done to you.  You replay the
things that the forbidden girl has done to you.  Your body revels in the feeling and
aftermath of the way the girl handled you, and then you realize that you have to have
it done again, as soon as possible.  It becomes a way of living, and what you live for,
and its all consuming.  At home, you can get away from the person, pour yourself
into your work or your family, or go shopping.  In prison, you see that person again
and again.  It takes a few weeks minimum to get your bearings back, and get back
to your old self, at the least.  Sometimes it could take months. 
    Within the last five years, it has annoyed me that there is so many bisexual
women in prison.  It is common now for a woman to tell me that she has a man and
a girlfriend at home, and that they both know about each other.  In the era I came
up in, that was unheard of, and now it is the norm.  Bisexual to me means just plain
greedy, and a freak.  Pick a team!  Equally as annoying to me is the commissary pimps.
Have you no shame?  To me they are equal to the two dollar crack whores and pill
whores, and I have told a few of them that.  You fake a relationship for commissary
and even put your mouth on a woman's privacy for a few packs of Ramon noodles or
a cup-o-soup?  Get some standards!  This is really disgusting and its common.  This
is real, and I watch it daily. 
       I also know a few women that came into prison without that House In Virginia
(HIV), and then tested positive later because of being promiscuous, and changing
girls like they change their underwear.  That happens also.  One of the women I know
was also messing with a male officer.  Now that is a different story altogether- and
when she found out he died from AIDS she tried to have her family sue the prison.
Of course they told her that it was no way to determine that she'd contracted the
disease from the deceased officer, and her law suit was thrown out.  They said that
because she had also been involved in sexual relationships during the 14 years of
her serving time, she could have contacted it from any one of her partners. 
Testing is free.  It is good to know your status.  It is also good to know who you are
dealing with and implement some standards if that is what a woman decides to do
while in prison.  Today, I would not advise it, because the risks and the headaches
are too great. 
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